Went to expo with my mama for the metro sale. Didn't know that there MPH sale. My mum cant resist book fairs, so we went in and came out with 9 books. Haa... i bought a Sudoku book. Im kinda hooked to this game liao. Hee...
We went to Metro sale also. Ha..i think i really spend alot of money today. I bought 4 shorts! 3 of the same design but different colour. yaya, i know its stupid, but i just cant decide which colour to choose, so i took all instead. =P
Im going to finish watching Full House!! Just another 4 more disc and im done! Ha.. Am thinking of buyin Jin San Shun lei, but then i only watch once. Usually, i wont watch the same show twice cause i already know the ending ma, so whats the point right??
Anyway, tomorrow, im going to bedok with Justin. Ha..We are going to make specs there. I hope its cheaper and nicer there. I wanna watch death note also! Dont know if got suitable timing anot. After that, i wanna go orchard! Its been weeks since i stepped into orchard. I know nothing will change but i just miss the feeling of going down there, walk around and of course, doing and enjoying some retail therapy. =P
Saturday, October 21, 2006
Tuesday, October 17, 2006
Happy birthday to Chris! ermm..Wont tell ya her age. u shall guess. Yea..its the Chris that took the pics when im sleeping in class! Look at the big bouquet of roses!! its given to her by her hubby! he actually sent to her work place lo! *envy*
That moi with da birthday gal! SweetZ! okok, my hair is messy i know.. 365 days bad hair day!
Monday, October 16, 2006
Breakups: How men deal
Breakups: How men deal
By Steve Friedman
Let’s say you didn’t find him in bed with your best friend. Let’s say he didn’t discover that you had “borrowed” his credit card and run up a $1,000 bill at your favorite spa. Those are special cases. No, let’s assume this breakup was, like most breakups, difficult and heartbreaking—but in your better moments, you have to admit this guy had some good points. You miss him. And if you’re like most women, you may also be wondering: Does he miss me, too? How is he handling this delicate post-relationship period that many women fill with crying jags, supportive girlfriends, and more than a few Cosmopolitans? And how should you deal with him during this tough time? Allow me to fill you in.
I admit it: My last breakup found me downing pints of peanut-butter-cup ice cream late at night, trying to cling to memories of the bad times so I could stop obsessing about her long, smooth legs and the way she cried at Harry Potter movies. Even though the breakup was “mutual,” I couldn’t stop thinking about her. As hard as it was, I forced myself not to call. And then, in the predawn darkness, I found myself on the receiving end of a 3 a.m. phone call from her. Worse, I found myself seriously entertaining her drunken entreaties. She took a taxi over wearing God knows what under a trench coat, and it wasn’t until my hand was abomy front door lock that I suddenly remembered — seeing the vodka flush on her neck — why we broke up in the first place.
From that close call, I made up :-Rule #1: Both men and women are better off having no contact with the ex right after the breakup. Especially after dark, especially when she’s wearing God knows what under a trench coat. If you’ve both agreed, “We’ll just be friends,” it’s even dicier.“It’s impossible to be friends with an ex!” exclaim many. My friend Al takes exception to this rule. Al’s motto is, “We’re all adults. And adults do stupid things. So let’s not blame each other.” Al is the kind of guy who didn’t show up when his girlfriend’s parents were in town, the one you finally wrote off as a calloused, shallow player.
Suddenly, he calls to tell you, breathily, that he’s thinking of you. Can you trust him? No matter how sincere he sounds, force yourself to remember the night your co-worker busted him at a club with young Bambi—the same the night he begged off on dinner with you because he had the “flu.” Among his guy friends, Al is known as “The Hound,” and he receives from we men a certain appalled and loathing awe. From you, he should receive bupkis, especially if he comes knocking after a breakup.
Tempting as it may be to be wooed by someone you recently separated from, please consider what I’ve deemed Rule #2: The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. So unless you’re longing for a steady diet of heartbreak soup, tell your ex when he comes calling that you’ve got company, and that you’ll call him back in a minute. Then don’t.The truth, however, is that most of us are not hounds. No, we’re as confused as you are. That explains why, when we’re longing for you, we watch hours of football on TV.
Or bury ourselves in our work at the office. Or pull out the ice cream. Most of us miss you.Most of us wish we could give it another chance, and that this time, it would work. So the question you must be wondering is, should you believe him if he calls trying to reconcile?In short: probably not. In fact, in my experience, the more dramatic his gesture to “make things work this time,” the less likely he’ll be able to follow through. Case in point: 15 years ago, a week before my ex’s wedding, I called to propose marriage myself. But that offer was worth less than the quarters I desperately pumped into the bar pay phone.
Here’s another hint: When it feels like a desperate move on his part, it is. Desperate moves are not good moves.Of course, everyone knows an exception—stories of love lost then found again that give us hope. For two years, this guy named Tom was the perfect boyfriend to my friend Christina. When Christina pushed for a bigger commitment, Tom bailed, but six months later, he was calling, writing, emailing, sending flowers.
Christina was the best thing that ever happened to him. Having been in therapy three times a week, he’d finally conquered his commitment-phobia. He wanted to be with her more than he wanted anything in his life. Christina took a chance. They just celebrated their five-year anniversary. Was your former relationship like theirs—damaged, but not irreparable? It’s certainly tempting to think so. But in my experience, it’s highly unlikely. Highly, highly, highly unlikely.
Which leads me to Rule #3, which is really less a rule than a speech. To me, this is what a guy wants to hear after a breakup: “Honey, I hope someday we can be friends, because in addition to all the love and resentment and hard times we went through, I think you’re a great guy. But right now, I need to get over you. Maybe in six months or so, we can get together for lunch and laugh about all this, but right now, I’m too busy crying.” Sad, but dignified. Hurt, but decent. Firm, but gentle. Because the truth is, I’ve heard stories of couples who broke up but got back together and are still going strong.
I’ve heard about couples who broke up then smoothly transitioned to become friends or even the occasional booty call. I’ve also heard about unicorns frolicking under the stars in Central Park. I’ve heard about this stuff, but — beyond Christina and Tom — I’ve rarely actually seen it. So delete his emails, his number from your cell phone, and any other reminders that might make you slip back into something that clearly wasn’t working the first time around. That opens the door to the better things that are yet to come.
Steve Friedman is the author of The Gentleman’s Guide to Life.
Breakups: How men deal
By Steve Friedman
Let’s say you didn’t find him in bed with your best friend. Let’s say he didn’t discover that you had “borrowed” his credit card and run up a $1,000 bill at your favorite spa. Those are special cases. No, let’s assume this breakup was, like most breakups, difficult and heartbreaking—but in your better moments, you have to admit this guy had some good points. You miss him. And if you’re like most women, you may also be wondering: Does he miss me, too? How is he handling this delicate post-relationship period that many women fill with crying jags, supportive girlfriends, and more than a few Cosmopolitans? And how should you deal with him during this tough time? Allow me to fill you in.
I admit it: My last breakup found me downing pints of peanut-butter-cup ice cream late at night, trying to cling to memories of the bad times so I could stop obsessing about her long, smooth legs and the way she cried at Harry Potter movies. Even though the breakup was “mutual,” I couldn’t stop thinking about her. As hard as it was, I forced myself not to call. And then, in the predawn darkness, I found myself on the receiving end of a 3 a.m. phone call from her. Worse, I found myself seriously entertaining her drunken entreaties. She took a taxi over wearing God knows what under a trench coat, and it wasn’t until my hand was abomy front door lock that I suddenly remembered — seeing the vodka flush on her neck — why we broke up in the first place.
From that close call, I made up :-Rule #1: Both men and women are better off having no contact with the ex right after the breakup. Especially after dark, especially when she’s wearing God knows what under a trench coat. If you’ve both agreed, “We’ll just be friends,” it’s even dicier.“It’s impossible to be friends with an ex!” exclaim many. My friend Al takes exception to this rule. Al’s motto is, “We’re all adults. And adults do stupid things. So let’s not blame each other.” Al is the kind of guy who didn’t show up when his girlfriend’s parents were in town, the one you finally wrote off as a calloused, shallow player.
Suddenly, he calls to tell you, breathily, that he’s thinking of you. Can you trust him? No matter how sincere he sounds, force yourself to remember the night your co-worker busted him at a club with young Bambi—the same the night he begged off on dinner with you because he had the “flu.” Among his guy friends, Al is known as “The Hound,” and he receives from we men a certain appalled and loathing awe. From you, he should receive bupkis, especially if he comes knocking after a breakup.
Tempting as it may be to be wooed by someone you recently separated from, please consider what I’ve deemed Rule #2: The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. So unless you’re longing for a steady diet of heartbreak soup, tell your ex when he comes calling that you’ve got company, and that you’ll call him back in a minute. Then don’t.The truth, however, is that most of us are not hounds. No, we’re as confused as you are. That explains why, when we’re longing for you, we watch hours of football on TV.
Or bury ourselves in our work at the office. Or pull out the ice cream. Most of us miss you.Most of us wish we could give it another chance, and that this time, it would work. So the question you must be wondering is, should you believe him if he calls trying to reconcile?In short: probably not. In fact, in my experience, the more dramatic his gesture to “make things work this time,” the less likely he’ll be able to follow through. Case in point: 15 years ago, a week before my ex’s wedding, I called to propose marriage myself. But that offer was worth less than the quarters I desperately pumped into the bar pay phone.
Here’s another hint: When it feels like a desperate move on his part, it is. Desperate moves are not good moves.Of course, everyone knows an exception—stories of love lost then found again that give us hope. For two years, this guy named Tom was the perfect boyfriend to my friend Christina. When Christina pushed for a bigger commitment, Tom bailed, but six months later, he was calling, writing, emailing, sending flowers.
Christina was the best thing that ever happened to him. Having been in therapy three times a week, he’d finally conquered his commitment-phobia. He wanted to be with her more than he wanted anything in his life. Christina took a chance. They just celebrated their five-year anniversary. Was your former relationship like theirs—damaged, but not irreparable? It’s certainly tempting to think so. But in my experience, it’s highly unlikely. Highly, highly, highly unlikely.
Which leads me to Rule #3, which is really less a rule than a speech. To me, this is what a guy wants to hear after a breakup: “Honey, I hope someday we can be friends, because in addition to all the love and resentment and hard times we went through, I think you’re a great guy. But right now, I need to get over you. Maybe in six months or so, we can get together for lunch and laugh about all this, but right now, I’m too busy crying.” Sad, but dignified. Hurt, but decent. Firm, but gentle. Because the truth is, I’ve heard stories of couples who broke up but got back together and are still going strong.
I’ve heard about couples who broke up then smoothly transitioned to become friends or even the occasional booty call. I’ve also heard about unicorns frolicking under the stars in Central Park. I’ve heard about this stuff, but — beyond Christina and Tom — I’ve rarely actually seen it. So delete his emails, his number from your cell phone, and any other reminders that might make you slip back into something that clearly wasn’t working the first time around. That opens the door to the better things that are yet to come.
Steve Friedman is the author of The Gentleman’s Guide to Life.
Sunday, October 15, 2006
On Mon's lesson:
That's Chris finger trying to touch mine when i was sleeping in class! ha!
She secretly took that photo!
"ah!!!! Don't catch moi!!!" That's still moi fingers with Xiu Hua's toy.
And ya, Chris took it again.
Please believe me, she dont behave like she's married!
Hypnotise!
Too bored in class, took my earrings off for this pose.
sissors, paper,stone! I lost. =(
Ytd, i went to office to finish my stuffs before mon as chemical lab is having their audit. Well, Justin came down. He brought chocolates for us! It was the Sins choc that he bought for us before he left my company. He even bought herbal tea for all of us. I've got something more special. He bought Luo Han Guo which is specially for cough. Hee..He told me the night before that he wil come down and visit us. He said he wil buy herbal tea for me as im coughing badly. But i though he was joking. *touched*
He actually offered to help me do some test but i was kind of pai say that he comes back to do test when he is no longer Setsco staff.But he helped me with acidity test anyway.Haa...
He was suppose to go for his RT at 4, but when he finished the test, he left at 3.30. I also finished my test so we left together. At the bus stop, he said that he dont want to go RT anymore, cause he said he wil be late, and they wont count it as an attendence. He said he rather go shopping.I asked him where, he said VIVO city! haa..of course i wanna follow!so we took mrt down there.
ITs a WOW place! Its sooo big and nice! maybe cause its new but its really nice! i went to Giant/cold storage and they have an organic section. I saw this really small pumpkin:
I know it looks big but its small. I saw tomatoes with vines and it looks soo red and juicy. really felt like taking a bite.
We bought a German bread, Spiced cheese which is spiced with cumins, and a promoganate drink with raspberry. We had that for so-call dinner. The bread isnt very nice. Its has very strong malt taste. The cheese was nice and so was the drink. Well, it isnt very filling but ok la.
There are lots of places for scenery viewing but its so hazy. There's this a place where alot of people can sit down and watch performances. Theres LOTS n LOTS of shops!! Its so damn packed ytd!
And that its sooo damn packed ytd, we can even bump into ShiJia lo!! I dont know whats going to happen tomorrow. What wil she tell the rest when she saw Justin and me going out alone??!! She asked him why he came back when he went to mirco lab to say "hi". SHe asked if we are together. He said "no". Then she saw us outside! ahh!!!! help?
We had Carl's Junior for dinner. The burger is so big! so we just bought a meal and shared. I wanted to eat alot of things! Like the beef chillli cheese fries from carl's, Toast bread from Toast, cheese stick from Bread papa! So many so many..but sore throat. Sianz.
KS was in Vivo too.But i didnt see him. I saw Xin Hui instead. ha..She as usual, very comical.never change.
We bought carl's and went to the ampi theater to eat cause inside no space. Sat there and chatted till it was time to go. He took a train back to tamp with me and took no.10 from the interchange home. He stays in pasir panjang. Ha..Had an enjoyable day today.heee
Was suppose to meet him today but i wasnt feeling very well. We were suppose to donate blood and go to church. We wanted to buy specs and i wanted to go PS cause of DAISO. We pushed it all to today, but ended up, i couldnt make it. =(
TIred now.Think i better sleep early tonight. I wanna have the energry to quarrel if that lao de wants to start anythign funny with me! @#$%^
These days, work really sucks. There's really lots of things to do, to learn and more is to come. I hate my work!! There's this old man in my lab who tries to control us! us as in newbies. HAte him lik shit!no, he's worse than shit.HE SMELLS!
Quarrelled with him in thurs and fri. He stil wants to irritate me on Sat! Hello?its not my wrking day! @#$%
So what if i want to keep MY own reports in MY file?? So what if i titrate the way i learn in poly? So what if i want to take my time n weigh my samples??!! To hell with ya!
I've never in my life feel so pissed with anyone. Not friends or colleagues. I'm kinda good at enduring and wont raise my voice at anyone unless its really neccessary. And guess what?This damn old man made me blew my top. I shouted back at him after being accused of critising him! He thinks that people around him wants to make things difficult for him and even thought that we want to sabo him in everyway! Crazy old man. He dont even worth my respect! now i know why he's a vegetarian! so as to repent his sins!! I see you no up! PUI!
Quarrelled with him in thurs and fri. He stil wants to irritate me on Sat! Hello?its not my wrking day! @#$%
So what if i want to keep MY own reports in MY file?? So what if i titrate the way i learn in poly? So what if i want to take my time n weigh my samples??!! To hell with ya!
I've never in my life feel so pissed with anyone. Not friends or colleagues. I'm kinda good at enduring and wont raise my voice at anyone unless its really neccessary. And guess what?This damn old man made me blew my top. I shouted back at him after being accused of critising him! He thinks that people around him wants to make things difficult for him and even thought that we want to sabo him in everyway! Crazy old man. He dont even worth my respect! now i know why he's a vegetarian! so as to repent his sins!! I see you no up! PUI!
Sunday, October 01, 2006
Im ending it. I cant take it anymore. It hurts n it really does. So frm today onwards, eva since last nite, tats it.It's ending der n full-stop. I gez i'l b much much better tis way though it's torturing in the beginning, but time wil heal. For sure.
Sweet words lik"i miss you" have other hidden meanings which i've not realised at all til last nite.Such words can b so sweet til u noe the meaning n realised tat its hurtful.
XiaoHui said we are so ambiguous.i said: true, but bo pian. She said: gal, u hav a choice de.
Tat kinda woke me up. i confirmed tis morning tat i DO have a choice n i've made up my mind.
XDD said i've changed. i dun sound as happy anymore.he said i've changed. Did i? is it towards him only or tat i've really changed?haa..i dunno..
Sweet words lik"i miss you" have other hidden meanings which i've not realised at all til last nite.Such words can b so sweet til u noe the meaning n realised tat its hurtful.
XiaoHui said we are so ambiguous.i said: true, but bo pian. She said: gal, u hav a choice de.
Tat kinda woke me up. i confirmed tis morning tat i DO have a choice n i've made up my mind.
XDD said i've changed. i dun sound as happy anymore.he said i've changed. Did i? is it towards him only or tat i've really changed?haa..i dunno..
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