Beary Angelic World of moi~

Just moments ago, a friend asked me in msn: "Does being too independent leads to selfish acts?"


Hmm...it made me wonder for a while.. I replied: " It depends on the person's thinking and brought up, i guess."

Well, to me, i think it really does depends on the person. Like my brother, he's super duper independent. So is my sis. Im not, for sure. But we do take care of each other, like asking each other how are things over in SG, France or Aust, buying things for each other on own accord.

Dont see i always say my sis this and that, deep down, i SERIOUSLY really do love her lots. She's my only sister i have, of course i love her la! Though i do complain alot when she do things to irritate me. hehehe..But dont have to doubt my love for her.

I also have friends who keep saying their siblings this and that, complain this and that, but of cuz, deep down, they do love them.

But there are also people who are independent and not bothering about people around them, especially if they are the only child, but of course, those with siblings also can be like that la. Like the world only revolves around themselves and no one else. They do things for themselves and think only for themselves. Thats selfish. Not sharing is selfish! Of course, not sharing everything you have like $$ and stuffs that are personal la. But if you are such a person that keeps things to yourself, scared that other people will know it and "rush" ahead of you in whatever ways, then its a major major weakness of yours. I wont deny that im sometimes like this. Who isnt?

But i also do wonder how come there are such people in this world, especially thinking that they live on this world alone. They wont be here w/o their parents, they wont be happy w/o friends around them. They wont even survive w/o the help of friends.

They might think that its based on their own capability which brought them till this far, but think about it, if in school, no friends, does it means that you have to childhood memories? When you go out, you might enjoy the feeling of being free, but how long can this last for you, especially when you see groups of people around you having fun as a group. When you work, if you dont have colleagues who helped you when you are in doubt, or console you when you are feeling down but still have to drag yourself to work?Its the people around you that make you like you are today, not you alone. So the world doesnt only revolve around you. If you think it does, then thats selfish. Especially if you dont appreciate what people around you have done for you.

But i do have friends, who are "betrayed" by friends, and from then on, they dont turst people as easily. Therefore, they really become independent. But its a totally different case la, that one is like once bitten, twice shy, got that "shaodow" behind them. They will overcome it for sure, just that it takes time.

Any conclusion? Hmm..it still depends on the person's up-brining and thoughts.